Going from the general to something a little more specific, here’s how I like to approach things:
I’ll start out by listening to you as you tell me your problem(s) and what you think is the best way to solve them.
Next, I’ll point out that the viewpoints of the other party (and possibly the court) also have to be taken into consideration, and I’ll show you why their viewpoint(s) affect the number of choices available to you and the possible outcomes of each of those choices. I’m not saying you’re wrong or they’re right, but we do have to consider those points of view when determing what’s best, what’s achieveable, and what’s out of the question.
Once that’s done, I’ll tell you what I think the best course of action is, and why, and then I’ll tell you that you should take some time to think over what I’ve said because (a) this is an important decision, (b) you shouldn’t rush to make a decision just because you’re feeling scared or overwhelmed, and (c) I can’t make the decision for you – you’re the only one who can do that.
After you’ve had time to think things over, if you decide to hire me, that’s fine, and if not, that’s fine too. This is just my way of doing things, and it’s not a one-size-fits-all world, especially when it comes to family law, which just about always requires individualized solutions to individual problems. There are plenty of good attorneys out there, they each have different ways of doing things, and they’ll all be willing to help you. My way works for me, and when people hire me, part of the reason they hire me is because they think that it will work for them too.